One who is stronger is not based on how they control.
It's really based on how they exposing themselves by their feel of love.
Expressing is not the losing on the ground of love.
Controlling thoughts is not winning in love.
Winning is the thing when they lose their control by expressing their feel of love.
Expression of feel is not loser, there you are winner of love.
You fail or succeed is not the matter.
The matter is your expression on the feel you had with them.